THE MARRIAGE CHRONICLES
The lot is yet to be told. I have witnessed a marriage some years ago, to be precise, 17 years ago, break apart because…….
The story will be told later. Let’s get to why I am writing this article.
Marriage from basic definition, that is religion, is the union between a man and woman. Marriage is not I DO on Saturday and I QUIT on Sunday six months later. It entails more than we think, this is to the young ones who think about sex anytime marriage pops up. It is beautiful with just the right person. Now, have you wondered why marriage fails? Why divorce papers show its ugly head at a home which is about to turn into a house? The various reasons are not far- fetched. Marriage fails because yet, to be married partners fail to prepare. A husband was intentionally handcuffed and deliberately pushed into a pool with his wife standing near the pool. A woman who had been in a swimming team all her life and now a wife lied about her ability to swim because she had make up on. In the long run a stranger saved her husband from dying. What do you think will happen afterwards? Absence of trust makes marriages die. Responsibility: Before you consider yourself as a man or a woman, please you should be responsible for yourselves. Knowing what to do at the right time.
A close mouth doesn’t get fed. Been married doesn’t mean life is going to be all that great relatively to when you guys were dating. Trust me, can you describe how it feels when a food you love best burns your mouth when you try to munch it when hot? That is how marriage is. There are many ups and downs. Struggles here and there, failures. Fight over money. There are various remedies which can help eradicate this concept of troubles in marriages. This should be the question a spouse can ask him or herself. What do I love about him or her? What do I dislike about him or her? These questions should be openly discussed in a more matured way to settle differences. Marriage is all about compromising. You lose your wife or man when you know nothing about him or her though you are married. Is the little things that you know about her that makes her love you more.
Marriage cannot be started without love. This love should be unconditional. Marriage breaks apart when love is conditional. Lack of money can destroy marriages when not dealt with, lack of communication and even sex can also break marriages. Now, sex can destroy marriages when it becomes a game. Just like a man sexing a toy. A woman does not only need sex but needs love which is unselfish. That is thinking about your wife first before thinking about your desire. Women please be submissive. Be humble. Humility pays. Cook for your husband and husband you can one day also fix your wife a treat. This makes a union spring up like a tree planted by a river. Sex is God’s way of giving married couples beautiful experiences while enjoying a miracle of conception. It is a time where you explore the vast regions of your wife and should not be a game. Your wife shouldn’t be considered as a puppet. Appreciate the fact that women are complicated creatures who need attention more than intercourse.
The exercise
You don’t need anybody to fix your marriage, you can do it yourself. Change is inevitable but sometimes it is geared towards the wrong direction. Try these simple exercise with your wife maybe. You need some yoga or a meditation I guess. At this point, focus on your marriage, focus on the man and the woman you fell in love with, think about them, see them in your mind and then keep your heart open. Do to your wife what no one will do for her and try getting yourself away from divorce.
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