The quick substitute

It is quite funny how people blame God for their problems which they brought unto their own self. Caption this. The first man created by God became very sad when he saw every creature created had a partner, God saw the sorrow in his eyes and the feel of having a spouse. Now, God who is all knowing had to make him happy since he has created the spirit of sound mind in us and didn’t want to destroy that foundation. He then created a woman out of man but from God. Adam was extremely happy to see her and since an angry man is always a hungry man, he refuse to ask of her evil side but gave attributes onto her. Special words like;flesh of my flesh and bones of my bones. Amazing things men can do when they find women. Every bitter thing becomes sweet for them since they are in a hurry to have wives or girlfriends, refusing to know their background haha. But, when the woman pushed him into sin and God questioned him,he went on to say, it’s the #woman you gave me. Blaming it on God. God then reasoned hard and said in proverbs 18vs 22,that he wasn’t going to find women for men again but he who finds a wife, findeth a good thing. When it turns out to be bad, you need to blame it on yourself now.

COMPATIBILITY

 

THE MARRIAGE CHRONICLES

 

 

The lot is yet to be told. I have witnessed a marriage some years ago, to be precise, 17 years ago, break apart because…….

The story will be told later. Let’s get to why I am writing this article.

Marriage from basic definition, that is religion, is the union between a man and woman. Marriage is not I DO on Saturday and I QUIT on Sunday six months later. It entails more than we think, this is to the young ones who think about sex anytime marriage pops up. It is beautiful with just the right person. Now, have you wondered why marriage fails? Why divorce papers show its ugly head at a home which is about to turn into a house? The various reasons are not far- fetched. Marriage fails because yet, to be married partners fail to prepare. A husband was intentionally handcuffed and deliberately pushed into a pool with his wife standing near the pool. A woman who had been in a swimming team all her life and now a wife lied about her ability to swim because she had make up on. In the long run a stranger saved her husband from dying. What do you think will happen afterwards? Absence of trust makes marriages die. Responsibility: Before you consider yourself as a man or a woman, please you should be responsible for yourselves. Knowing what to do at the right time.

A close mouth doesn’t get fed. Been married doesn’t mean life is going to be all that great relatively to when you guys were dating. Trust me, can you describe how it feels when a food you love best burns your mouth when you try to munch it when hot? That is how marriage is. There are many ups and downs. Struggles here and there, failures. Fight over money. There are various remedies which can help eradicate this concept of troubles in marriages. This should be the question a spouse can ask him or herself. What do I love about him or her? What do I dislike about him or her? These questions should be openly discussed in a more matured way to settle differences. Marriage is all about compromising. You lose your wife or man when you know nothing about him or her though you are married. Is the little things that you know about her that makes her love you more.

Marriage cannot be started without love. This love should be unconditional. Marriage breaks apart when love is conditional. Lack of money can destroy marriages when not dealt with, lack of communication and even sex can also break marriages. Now, sex can destroy marriages when it becomes a game. Just like a man sexing a toy. A woman does not only need sex but needs love which is unselfish. That is thinking about your wife first before thinking about your desire. Women please be submissive. Be humble. Humility pays. Cook for your husband and husband you can one day also fix your wife a treat. This makes a union spring up like a tree planted by a river. Sex is God’s way of giving married couples beautiful experiences while enjoying a miracle of conception. It is a time where you explore the vast regions of your wife and should not be a game. Your wife shouldn’t be considered as a puppet. Appreciate the fact that women are complicated creatures who need attention more than intercourse.

The exercise

You don’t need anybody to fix your marriage, you can do it yourself. Change is inevitable but sometimes it is geared towards the wrong direction. Try these simple exercise with your wife maybe. You need some yoga or a meditation I guess. At this point, focus on your marriage, focus on the man and the woman you fell in love with, think about them, see them in your mind and then keep your heart open. Do to your wife what no one will do for her and try getting yourself away from divorce.

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UGLY BREAKTHROUGH

 

 

 

Have you ever sat down to ponder over how and why people you started life with are enjoying life so well and you on the other hand is caught in the hands of failure?

He was his parents favourite since he was always on his toes for them. From errands to studies and from sales to accounting, he did all these with delight in and out of home. He was diligent and circumspect in his dealings and everyone in the family created a colourful future for him in their conscious minds. He had dreams and he understood that his dreams could only come to pass if he committed it into God’s hands entirely.

He came out with a first class degree in Business Administration and no one wanted to employ him because he couldn’t be paid. He had so good a GPA that even his uncle refused to employ him since he knew for sure Ebo wouldn’t stay for long and would run if a better pay from a reputable company showed up. He was distressed and since no one would employ him, he took MPhil in Economics and for God being so good he was the best student to ever graduate in the field. Employment opportunities now opened for him after two years. He didn’t work in a bank, he worked in a Guinness Production firm and his duty was to enter data and retrieve data using Management Information System and knowledge in Accounting Information System- a subsystem of MIS. His pay was very good and with his knowledge in Economics and investment, he was always found in banks where he bought shares and invested. Approximately, he quit his job of a three year working experience and begun to work out his own dream.

His dad became ill and on his 65^th birthday kicked the bucket. His will was all about his son. Ebo inherited a lot likewise his mother. He entered into real estate business and built an empire. An empire of cocoa plantations, yam plantations, pineapple and cashew nuts. He also entered into poultry farming and soon he was rubbing shoulders with worth. His bank account was loaded and here and there he was seen doing all what rich men do; giving to orphanage homes and foundations which lacked basic amenities.

A new microfinance opened and since he was well to do, the workers decided to visit Ebo so that he could invest and make their business stand, promised 100% interest on any money saved and promising a three month interest of 125% on any money saved under Treasury bill. Ebo was excited to gain more money and expand his business. He agreed to their terms and within a time space of 2 weeks, he placed half of his fortune into his newly opened bank account in this new microfinance. Within a time frame of one year, Ebo who opened account with $620 million into this new account gained $2 billion and some coins. Over excited, he pushed this huge amount into Treasury bill and in no time money was really working for him.

He nearly killed himself when he came into his office to find a piece of note on his desk. Information therein was specific. No amount of empathy or sympathy could soothe his sorrows and fears. He thought he had disappointed his family. He had no wife and his mother was all his pride and now this? There has to be a reconsideration or something, he thought, but no one could hear him yell. He decided to visit the place where all his life changing story had begun. He had been tricked. It was all paper and all the workers in this microfinance where armed robbers. How could he not have found out earlier? He thought he had been paying his tithes and expected God to tell him something. He decided to find out why, and the answer was specific when he asked Pastor Joe, a local missionary who was transferred from Europe to Ghana. He replied,’’ You didn’t seek the lord’s face before going into that investment?’’. This nearly shut his whole brain down in six minutes which after could kill any human living under water without oxygen.

 

 

 

FUNNY WORLD

I CAN’T FIGURE THIS OUT

 

 

I thought I was reciting something which physically I couldn’t remember but immediately as I closed my eyes and fell asleep I knew that all what I couldn’t remember while I had my eyes opened was just rushing through my head. It felt so amazingly real that I didn’t want to  wake up, but you know when it is morning and mom just opens your door and shouts,’’ Sempah, won’t you wake up?’’ I groaned but refused to wake up but my dream was all gone likewise. I decided to link nature to dream but I just could not remember what was happening to me. All what I was studying and reciting in the spiritual world kind of escaped me.

DECISION

PERFECT GUY

 

 

You can’t be so sure you have the right guy until a situation strikes. I am not talking about an infant situation, I’m talking about a brain draining situation. A circumstance which stirs the hate fire in you towards a person you once upon a time loved. Men tend to show their boss power in front of circumstances which needs ignore. Women on the other hand, tend to show concern for the direct opposite. Immediate effect is not what women like but an understanding heart is what they love. Men please, don’t show a bad attitude towards a women to please her. For example, beating up a guy who loves to talk to your girl at first sight. You should be considered as a man who lost his mind a few miles away if I am not making a farce. Ridiculously, she will lose trust in you. Maybe a thrust will follow anytime you want to get closer. Stop being the perfect guy and be the simple guy who perfects circumstances and makes love sweeter.

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ANESTHESIA

ANESTHESIA

 

 

How did an innocent boy like me get addicted to what I considered evil in the sight of God? To many of us this question is highly inscrutable. It might mean we began it or something, a mistake made, triggered it. For all I know, for a behaviour to get started, it starts off as an unconscious psychomotor event and next you will just be making a circular action to gain its effect again. There and then the undeniable rudiment springs up to become a malignant behaviour which becomes a snare for everyone to take some advice to break free from this behaviour. It makes me resent the ideas behind a corrupted soul. The pain, the gnashing of ones teeth when they do not get to fire their desire and the possible hurt. The possible regrets and the hate for oneself. But then, is talking to a counsellor or a friend or even so a family member the possible breakthrough for me? Yes! So far as you will be able to comply to whatever he asks you. It is very simple. Some people in this same psychomotor addiction consider advice as being raucous. But a step can make you free from pain.

REALATIONSHIP

Relationship

 

 

I mean who will appreciate and accommodate pain derived from settling in a relationship where, the couple have different stances in social statuses. Psychologists say couples who both have different stances in social statuses have a 99.9% chance of having a fruitful marriage. Leaving room for doubt. Their assertion has been proven though. In the case where young ones are maturing; that is in their adolescent stage and young teens or young adult years, females tend to be volatile while few of the men are the main cause of their volatility. How? During this period, girls are most likely to be proposed to and it is left with the girl whether to decide on being in a relationship or not. Mind is unsettled and responsibility trait needed for fruitful relationship is not seen at this stage, hence break down of relationships which started off as something which both parties prayed never to have ended. A relationship which was full of lustful desires.  A relationship which had no proper planning. A relationship which either the male or female never had the thought of marriage at the back of his or her head but zoomed into its quintessential but deadly confinement. Relationship is just like a specialised tool- it should be used for the intended purpose but many a time, this tool is used for general purposes. General purposes which can cause broken hearts and possible deaths. A guy who dates more than three girls and a female who claims she is in love with a guy but professes love to more than four guys who confess their stupid love to her on social media. When the trust is broken, relationship is dissolved. At this stage guys don’t have eyes for just one girl and the average girl will also admire multiple guys according to my personal study but for fear of ending a good relationship will keep this secret to herself which later will be unveiled naturally to break it up. A guy who has multiple ladies as friends and a girl who has multiple gentlemen as friends are likely to have a good relationship. But the odds are more.

Before you say I do the negative sides of relationship causing its breakdown are cumbersome. Even people who say I do, have many fights to face before establishing a home and this is only achieved with greater grace how much more a relationship which involves a dependent male and female. Prepare before you enter into one.

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